|Jan lewis, CPA|
My husband Dave’s parents, Robert and Lydia, are exceptional people. They were born in 1920 and 1921, and grew up in untraditional households in Oklahoma. Both of Dave’s grandfathers were killed at young ages in work-related accidents, and his mother’s mother died young in childbirth. Bob and Lydia were high school and college sweethearts. They married on Bob’s graduation day from the Naval Midshipmen’s School in New York City before he went overseas during World War II.
After returning from his service, they lived in Great Bend, Kansas, before moving to Lawrence in the mid-1970s as his engineering business was expanding. They were very happily married for more than 71 years. I have known them for 33 years, and been their daughter-in-law for 30 of them. They have always been accomplished, strong, resilient and wonderful people: well-read, interested in world and local events, ready for travel and adventure.
Ahead of His Time
They definitely were planners and always had a direction moving forward in life. And their first priority was always love of family. Consideration for their family was so great that, before many people ever heard of advance care planning, they made sure that their children knew what their wishes were regarding medical treatment at the end of their lives. Years ago, they talked to us about their wishes so that we would know what they wanted (and didn’t want) and so they could be confident that we would be able to fulfill those wishes.
Last summer, my father-in-law died peacefully at age 94 surrounded by his beloved family on August 22 at his home in Lawrence, Kansas.
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