Someone has just said to me: ‘You’re really boring today’. It is, of course, something I commonly hear. And it was undoubtedly true. But it made me wonder if there was any moral significance to my personal boringness. Should I repent of it, or is it morally neutral?
I’ve concluded, I’m afraid, that it’s culpable. There is a duty both to myself and to others to use reasonable – no, extraordinary – endeavours – not to be dull.
There are two reasons why I might be boring in the eyes of another.
- I might have lived a life which is capable of being entertaining if I did relate my doings, but have chosen not to bother to relate it in an entertaining way.
- I might have chosen to live a life in which nothing happened which is capable of entertaining another.
Surely case 1 is plainly culpable? I have an opportunity to relieve the ennui of another with whom because of the circumstances (party, train, marriage, whatever) I am in a relationship. I selfishly choose not to relieve their suffering.
Case 2 is perhaps more complex. I start by observing that everyone – yes, everyone – does have a genuine choice whether or not to live a life some events of which will, if related to another, be interesting. Interesting lives are lives of activity and/or reflection. Those are intrinsically good things. They are – with one caveat – better than non-activity and unreflectiveness. Before the caveat, then, good people lead interesting lives. Or at least more interesting lives than non-good people.
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